Okay, so about the developing world...

We didn't exactly rough it in Vietnam.  Our hotel in Saigon was modern, in the high rent district, and catered to Westerners.  We were taken to the Mekong in a cushy van and rode through it on fancy mountain bikes.  At the beach in Mui Ne, we splurged and checked in to a boutique hotel replete with fluffy beach towels and complimentary fresh juice pool side.  Even considering these luxuries, we experienced plenty of developing world idiosynchracies.  And while Vietnam wasn't really our cup of chai, it was worth spending a few weeks.

Its hard to be honest when making observations about poverty-stricken nations.  Our yuppie liberal New Yorker guilt begins to rear its head about the same time that our frustration peaks.  But one thing this trip has done is to wear away at the political correctness we carefully practiced at home, so observe I shall. 

The value of tourist sites has been overinflated by the Vietnamese.  Clearly, when backpackers first hired small fishing boats to cruise the Mekong, it must have felt like a fascinating and somewhat secret gem.  Now, trips to the Mekong are big business in Vietnam.  The country, understandably, markets every natural and man-made resource as "must sees" for tourists.  In reality, a lot of it just isn't that impressive.  No other country we've visited has as many tours, tour-based scams, tourist offices, travel agents, bus companies, etc., as Vietnam.  And yet as compared to, say, China most of the "sights" aren't much to see.  You can't blame the locals; most haven't traveled beyond the country's borders and assume that if Westerners will buy it, its worth selling.

The 3rd world is freaking loud.  People are accustomed to living in tight, crowded quarters. Extended families live together and room is made in the home for whomever needs it.  In cities the noise of traffic, construction, and humanity combined can be deafening; the locals seem to block it out and don't need to seek a quiet respite.  For us, this can be head splitting.  One rainy afternoon, I went for a pedicure near our hotel in Saigon.  At home, the sound of tabloid pages flipping and the nail-doers chattering in their native tongue would be the soundtrack.  The salon in Saigon was like stepping into a dorm room.  One girl was playing a shooting video game on a laptop at full volume.  Another was doing her make up in the mirror while yelling at someone on her cell phone.  Next to the register, the manager was hacking up a pork shoulder and her husband was cutting watermelon slices.  Having expected some much-needed quiet away from the chaos of the city, this wasn't what I had in mind.


People use everything.  Salespeople in the high end department stores cropping up all over Saigon don't yet understand the specific type of professionalism generally required in a white-tiled mall.  The girls at the make-up counters can usually be found applying testers or lounging in the customer chairs, texting.  On a steamy hot day in Saigon we hit up the Lotte Cinema for an afternoon showing of Harry Potter.  Side note, if you haven't read any of the books or seen the prior films, you may find #7 confusing.  The floor the theater was on was freezing; air conditioned and much cooler than the rest of the mall.  It shouldn't have surprised me, but did, to go into the ladies room and find two female security guards sitting on the cool tile floor eating their lunch. 

And, in wrapping up the bathroom topic, I can't fail to mention my favorite bathroom sign which can be seen all over SE Asia & China.  This is squat toilet territory and the concept of sitting is still relatively new.  Often women use the western toilets by squatting, soles of their shoes on the seat.  Many a ladies room, including in the Saigon airport, have signs on the back of the doors illustrating how to use a toilet.

In Vietnam, both traditional and modern dress have been forsaken in favor of matching pajamas.  Most grown women outside of the city can be seen sporting matching pj tops and bottoms.  And not of the Dick Van Dyke/L.L. Bean/Monogrammed pocket variety.  These are poly stretch, slightly bell bottomed, brightly colored ensembles.  While infinitely practical, there is also something so charming about them; they're like a team of dismissed gong show contestants ready to do the jerk, or take a nap, at a moment's notice.

A less charming observation is the cruelty shown to animals.  Dog is still a popular dish in Vietnam.  Since the country was opened to import, it is no longer heavily relied upon but there are still blocks in Saigon that will feature 2 or 3 dog restaurants in a row.  Perhaps as a result of the fine line between pet and dinner, even the domestic animals are often beaten or neglected.  Walking down a beach road in Mui Ne, we saw a family lounging outside their shack/variety store with a puppy.  I'm not certain what offense was committed, but the matriarch thwacked the dog in the head with a broom so hard that the sound echoed and the dog went screaming into the house.  My instant reaction was to want to hit her equally hard with a broom stick.  But this is a different world and I don't pretend to understand what passes for acceptable.

My lack of understanding extends to sanitary conditions, as well.  More than once a waitress touched the food on our plates with bare hands.  Trying to be helpful, the proprietor of a Hue restaurant on our hotels' block picked up a spring roll off my plate, made me a lettuce wrap, dipped it in dressing, and then handed it back to me to eat.  These moments seem trivial in reflection, but sitting in a nice restaurant away from the solicitous moto drivers, the open manhole covers, and the constant din of "madam madam madam," we would relax but then immediately be caught off guard again.  

Similarly, our ideas about schedules have been challenged.  We took  the "nice" bus to Mui Ne, arranged by our hotel.  The A/C barely worked, the bus driver yelled into his cell phone the entire ride, and we stopped to have a tire changed half way through.  The Vietnamese, used to waiting around, didn't think this a bit strange.  The foreigners who thought the cool ride through the countryside would be 4 hours and were practically peeing in our seats when it turned into six and a half, were not nearly as patient. 

Traveling in poor countries is hard and strange.   We come from priveledge, we're traveling the world, and we don't even have jobs.  Our expectations are frequently not met, and it seems cruel and selfish to complain, but that doesn't make the day to day any breezier. 

Being in Vietnam was eye-opening for us and while I don't pretend to understand the finer points of the country's history or the current political situation, I know a lot more than I did on arrival.  I'm glad to have gone, but I'm also happy to have left. 

SE Asia hearts vintage

There are a million differences between the developing world and home.  I've been thinking a lot about the small frustrations that we've grumbled over in Vietnam and why the locals don't even notice these myriad irritations.  But more on that later.  One key difference that's obvious is that here goods are maintained; at home we replace.

This can be highly frustrating.  Arguing with a worker in Mongolia who insisted on patching a tube in the tire of my bicycle for the 97th time rather than simply replacing was rage inspiring (I offered to pay him for the new tube).  The number of cracked glasses we've been served, even in swank joints, is surprising.  People hang on to their shit until its absolutely beyond repair.  Often this is financial necessity, equally often its stubborn habit.

Sometimes, though, this behavior allows for preservation of old treasures.  And I mean preservation, not restoration.  Even as the pool tiles turn to dust at the Atlanta, the staff continues to skim the top, bleach the deck, and chlorinate the water.  The idea of re-tiling probably hasn't crossed their minds.  And the Unification Palace (aka the Reunification Palace, Independence Palace, and The Palace) in Saigon practically feels haunted.  

The Atlanta:

Both of these places look magical from afar, like stepping back in time.  Up close the wear and tear peeks through in faded upholstery and 50 year old uncleanable dirt.  They're like Demi Moore that way.  Did you see "The Joneses?"  Because I did, and I expect she's filed a civil suit against that DP.  Some rough angles in that flick...

Ed and I likely set a record for time spent in the palace and gathered some hot decorating tips (no joke) while we wondered.  Its considered the site of the end of the Vietnam War, the famous lawn the VC rolled their tanks onto.  The basement is a maze of communication rooms used to plan and execute war.  It was beyond creepy down there, and we loved every second.  Its basically Communist Graceland, minus the music.

The Unification Palace:

Spoiled by Gabriel

Since M&J departed, we've spent quite a bit of our time in Saigon with Molly & Andrew's friend Gabriel.  He is, in 2 words, the fucking best.  Gabe has taken us to eat the most amazing food, meet the most awesome people, have the coolest off-the-beaten-path experiences, and gone out of his way to make our hang time super terrific.  Who brings bahn mi kebab sandwiches for breakfast to people he's met one time?  Gabe does.  He's the best thing that could have happened to us in Vietnam.

One of our extra special dates included our first motorbike rides (I want!) to the peninsula across the river where some seriously space age plans for development have been laid.  Riding on Gabe's bike on dirt roads along the river, past fields of leveled homes, canals where fisherman catch shrimp, and countless shacks with laundry hanging outside was surely one of the most memorable mornings of our 5 months away from home.

Before coming back to lunch at an amazing fish noodle joint, we hit a fruit stand where Gabe introduced us to the local varieties.  In the afternoon, the three of us enjoyed massages and fish tacos at Gringo's, a must-visit for anyone coming to Saigon.

The fact that someone who was a stranger only a few days ago went to so much trouble to plan our days and navigate this hectic city for us was unbelievable; that fact that we've made a new friend is even better.

Our favorite citizen of Saigon:

Motorcyclin' (with aforementioned fruit):

But then it got better....

Because Matt & Jill came!  Matt & Jill!  Matt & Jill!  Matt & Jill!  Look how cute:

In our 48 hours together, we covered quite a bit of ground - conversationally, bondingly, and block-wise.  Seeing our buddies from NYC in Saigon was fantastico and we wish they could have stayed indefinitely. 

On our first evening together we accidentally landed ourselves in a hostess bar where we drank some beers and gorged on free peanuts.  After a wander through the city and several boutiques we made it to a fab restaurant recommended by M&J's tour company. 

The second day we had quite a bit more time and a hefty agenda.  In the morning Ed & I finally found the much beloved/discussed French style pastries at a nearby patiserie and checked out the Ho Chi Minh museum across the river.  Then the four of us gathered for a banh mi tasting (3 kinds, 5 sandwiches, homahgah) at a corner stand. 

Afterwards we visited the war remnants museum which was extensive, humid, and heartbreaking.  I'd like to learn more about the war that took place here, but the museum didn't serve the purpose of filling the gaps.  Its aim is to outline the atrocities that took place in Vietnam, exhibit an incredible collection of photographs by journalists who traveled with the military, and publicize the long term effects to both humans and the environment of the toxins dropped there. 

This last lesson wasn't something we needed to visit a museum to learn about.  The effects of Agent Orange can be seen all over the city of Saigon and probably the rest of Vietnam...  Through the 90s, babies were still being born with serious physical deformities as a result of their parents' exposure.  Impacted residents of Saigon, many of them beggars, suffer from spina bifida, dwarfism, deformed limbs, blindness or missing eyes, and a range of other serious health issues.  Its devastating to witness but important, I think, to see.

Thoroughly shocked after visiting the "Tiger Cages" at the museum, we four were ready for something on the lighter side.  We visited the massive Ben Thanh market, drank some insanely delicious and cracky iced coffee and bought ourselves some trinkets.

In the evening we headed to the rooftop bar of the Sheraton for an overpriced apertif and view of the city and then to the truly delectable Hoa Tuc for dinner.  A lovely little spot tucked in the rear of a courtyard and away from the non-stop motorbike buzz of Saigon, we had a feast and hours of sparkly conversation. 

M&J's visit put our visit here back on track.  Our time together tipped the scale from annoyed/overwhelmed to amused/interested.  Having friends rulez.

Oh, Saigon.

We were sadsosad to leave Thailand.  Our expectations, particularly of Bangkok, weren't meteorically high and were surpassed in every category.  Plus, we made friends at the beach with an awesome couple, Chelsey & Dave, and traveled back to Bangkok with them.  We all stayed at the Atlanta and had fun times and foods and laughs and puppies.  We were comfy and complacent and full of fruit shakes and it was like ripping off a band aid to come here.

Our Friends:

The puppy:

Our very first experience in Saigon was with a taxi driver who tried several tacts to overcharge us.  We had agreed upfront that he would use the meter but as soon as we were out of the airport parking lot he started to ask whether we knew how much it would be, would rather pay a flat rate, that there would be other charges, etc.  When he realized that we weren't turnips who were ready to hand him our dong (its the currency, I'm not being dirty) he tried to leave us on the side of the road in monsoon force rains.  After refusing his kind offer of being ripped off and deserted, the 3 of us had to spend a purgatorial hour and a half in rain drenched traffic together, grumbling.


We're staying in the heart of downtown Saigon, district 1.  And, yet, the next morning and each subsequent we've been awoken by a rooster crowing at dawn.  I'm starting to miss the call to prayer and dog howling in Lanta.  As unwelcome 5 am wake ups go, it was a bit less grating.  This city is loud, crazy cacophony all day, all night, always.  The power goes out fairly often and the pollution makes Hong Kong look like Mongolia.

But, we're adjusting.  Its now day 5 and we've had some amazing times and have figured out how to cross the lawless six lane roads choked with motorbikes.  We're eating bahn mi like we've just come home from fat camp and today spoke to a travel company about our trip to the Mekong.  Vietnam didn't make the best first impression, but we're going on a few more dates before we flee and return to the loving arms of Thailand.

Happy Thanksgiving, 50 Staters!

At dinner, when squinting, the peanut sauce looked just like gravy.  This year I'm thankful for so many things, but most of all for my traveling companion.